🍀 Yes Matthieu, I know, and I have been training my mind but it's not very obedient. Sometimes I feel like I have made no progress, believing the stories about myself and others my mind makes up. More often than not, these stories are false, ridiculous, and based on nothing else than the filter I see reality through at that moment in time. The more stressed I get the more my mind races and goes from thought to thought with no visible pattern. Here's how it goes, and tell me if this isn't you:
I’d love pasta for lunch- wait I can’t have pasta- I don’t like that guy, why is he looking at me that way? He doesn’t like me, I can tell - I love purple- maybe I could have eggplant instead- I wonder when that ballet class starts again- But now I prefer blue. I need to book an appointment with the dentist, not the new one- maybe I should go back to the old one? Maybe he’s dead, it’s been so long- I do love pasta though, too bad I can’t have it...and so on.
And I let myself go nuts over this??? Well ... I have to admit sometimes I do. Luckily over the years I have learned to keep my mouth shut and stay back when this happens, avoiding interaction with others until the dark cloud has passed. Otherwise I’d have no friends (oh wait... ). I watch the (silly) thoughts happen as they unfold, and I avoid believing in all the crap my mind produces. - at least I try-. Of course it gets worse when this happens in the middle of the night. Ever got up in the morning remembering your nocturnal thoughts, and wondering “wtf?? Am I losing my mind?? Or rather it’s my mind losing me!!”
So! Here are my -truly and tested- tips to come back to Earth and keep your head on your shoulders... or screw it back on if it fell off:-); and believe me, it does happen.
🍀 FYI: When stressed, our brain releases stress hormones that encourage anxious, irrational thoughts. This is how we jump up to conclusions, relying on pure emotions rather than plain facts, isolating ourselves from people that really had none of the intentions or thoughts we thought they had. So first, learn to recognise you are under stress!! Then... DON'T ACT ON IT!! Don't make any decisions when under stress!!
🍀If you want to see a situation/person for what it really is, do not label it. Rather, be curious about it and listen/look at it as if experiencing it for the first time, pretty much like a baby eating banana for the first time (no expectations, just noticing). Let go of all preconceived ideas. Yes. Easier said than done. Just try ok?
🍀Question your own thoughts: is this true ? Is there another side to this story? Is this thought helping me in any way? At least 90% of the time our thoughts do get in the way!!
🍀If you catch yourself creating many stories all the time, it could be an indication that you are very tired, too busy, and needing more quality rest (watching the Bachelor does not qualify as rest; it’s mindless entertainment that eats away at the few neurones I have left).
🍀Start a mindfulness practice: just observe the thoughts come and go. Even if it’s just 1 minute a day.
🍀Give yourself a few minutes to sit in silence. It could be sitting in your car after you turned off the ignition. Soak in the silence and stillness. Breathe. Aaaaahhh... Feeling better already?