- Their desire for privacy doesn't mean they don't like you. They are discovering themselves and life outside of parents. Remember your own teen years?
- Pick your battles. Most of them are so not worth it (actually, this applies to ALL ages, and ALL relationships)
- Their prefrontal cortex (the seat of logic, reasoning, and understanding the consequences of their actions) won't be fully formed before their early twenties. So in the meantime you have to be their prefrontal cortex too, in addition to anything else. Yay.
And somewhere in all this is a BIG lesson about impermanence... in case we hadn't noticed in round one, when the terrible twos hijacked our sweet babies.
But even more than that, it's also a prime opportunity to practice surrender. Not as in giving up and throwing the towel, but as in letting go of what was, and allowing what is, to the best of our ability. I find that a few drops of curiosity (as opposed to judgement) really help.
Motherhood is not easy. Remember, we are ALL a work in progress. Learning, growing, adapting, is not a linear process. Sometimes we go backwards, sideways, fall on our face... but we keep learning, with an open heart.
Much love Mamas ❤️❤️
PS: If you have any particular topics that you would like me to address, please email me! I love receiving emails with questions!